Dedicated to Ted, the best face I ever had

I have been asked to write this tutorial about what a woman wants from a man as it pertains to oral sex. I am actually going to address both women and men because even though it's the man who usually performs the act on the woman; there are plenty of women who don't really know what they want or how to ask for it.

Introduction:

Most women want oral sex from their men, even the ones who protest that they don't. I feel that any woman who won't let her man try it has some kind of issue not related to the act itself. To the non-accepting woman, I suggest looking deep within and trying to figure what the real problem is.

For women who have never let their man eat them, let me just say that getting face from a man is one of the best feelings in the world. He's paying special attention to you in a most intimate way. There's nothing like it, if done correctly.

In my case I have been eaten more times than I can remember. And although my preference is men, I have actually performed Cunnilingus on a few women while in tri-sexual relationships.

I have been the recipient of face in enough variety and from enough different men (and a few women) to be confident that I know every technique of value to help you perform better Cunnilingus on your partner.

I still remember the first face I ever received. I was 19-years-old in my first year of college and was dating this boy from California. He was one of those surfer types, tan all over with sandy blonde hair (even down below) and I was head over heels in hots for him. His name was John and he was my fourth lover.

I had just performed oral sex on him and he wanted to reciprocate. I wasn't an expert at giving head back then and I'll admit that I was happy with just intercourse and sucking him off. But we were naked in his dorm room and we had all Saturday morning to lie around so when John crawled on top of me and pushed his mouth to my pussy I just luxuriated in the feeling of have a boy eating me.

I knew about Cunnilingus, but I hadn't expected any boy to actually do it to me. Looking back John probably wasn't all that good at it, but the intimacy of having his face between my legs was a rush, and come to think of it I believe he made me feel pretty good.

I don't think either of us ever had an orgasm from oral sex while we were together, but it was enjoyable, and I'm pretty sure he liked giving me face.

Over the years I found that some men wanted nothing to do with oral sex, so after a while I began to rate my guys by their ability please me orally, and not by their appearance. If a guy didn't want me to give him head or visa versa, I usually didn't stay with him very long.

I'll get into a little trouble here with my husband, but the best face I ever had was by a man named Ted. He was a middle-aged man who's wife had died several years before after 25-years of marriage and he was so lonely that our relationship just sort of happened. He was out of shape and a bit pudgy, but could he bring a girl off with his mouth! WOW!

He made me orgasm the very first time he went down on me and I was totally shocked and amazed. I wasn't even all that turned on by Ted at first, I just drifted into an affair with him out of boredom, but after our first time in bed I couldn't get enough of him. He had techniques that I'd never even imagined before.

What You Need To Know About Cunnilingus

The following are the required techniques to perform Cunnilingus properly. I will outline many different techniques, not all of which need to be part of your repertoire. Pick and chose, do what comes naturally, and enjoy the experience, both the performer and recipient.

The descriptions that follow will be based upon what heterosexual couples do to each other. (I'll assume that the rest of you can adapt the techniques.)

The Right Attitude:

Men, if you don't want to perform Cunnilingus and think it's gross, then nothing I say on the following pages will change your mind. Personally since I own a vagina I know that it can be tasty and fun for a man to play with. My husband said recently that a young nubile pussy is the best gift Mother Nature ever devised. He went on to say, "You can fuck it, finger it, lick it and eat it out, what a useful thing you have there between your legs."

He was being playful, but I also say that a healthy pre-menopausal woman has something wonderful to offer her man and if properly maintained it is very eatable. Cleanliness is sexy. Believe me when I say that a clean pussy is a delicacy, I know because I've even tried one or two myself.

If your lover doesn't want you to try Cunnilingus on her I suggest that you have a frank talk with her when you're not about to have sex. If she's uptight about it and you're both naked and ready, and you've asked her several times, then let it go or you won't get any sex at all. But later or even the next morning, talk to her, tell her how much you want to try it. Over time she should let you.

I've found through personal experience that small children can be a real drag on couple's sex lives. Most of us with young children go through the stage where we feel less attractive than we did before childbirth, and a man's attention is just the thing to snap us back. When he spreads her legs and buries his face between them, he's telling her that he still finds your attractive, and that he loves her. (Men, Cunnilingus will make your wife a happy woman, and you'll get more sex.)

Variety Is The Spice Of Life:

The act of Cunnilingus is quite different than anything that a woman would perform on a man. Women are just as sexually endowed as any man; only it's harder work to get to their equipment. Many men pay too much attention to the clitoris and not enough to the surrounding area and their rhythm. Just like a penis, too much rubbing can become painful.

Keep in mind, variety is the spice of life and there are a lot of ways to simulate a woman into an incredible and satisfying orgasm the likes of which she never thought you could. Just don't try too hard, and by that I mean, "If it isn't happening don't force it," try another time.

The act of Cunnilingus is basically the manipulation of the lips and inner folds of the vagina and the stimulation of the clitoris. This of course doesn't stop the inventive man from feeling his partner's body up. She has inner thighs, breasts and nipples that are just aching to be gently pinched and pulled while tongue and lips massage her intimate spots.

Eating Out:

Sounds like fine dining doesn't it? Well, in a way it is. The backbone of Cunnilingus is the mouth action. It is sort of a cross between kissing and sucking. The easiest way to describe Cunnilingus is to imagine a man at a pie-eating contest eating a pie ravenously with his hands tied behind his back.

That motion of dipping his face into the pie and eating pie filling is the same motion required to stimulate a woman. Be sensual, move your lips, tongue, kiss and rub, suck on a pussy lip, feel your way around, eat her out with vigor, as the saying goes.

Men, there are a lot of other moves required to bring your lady off, but the eating out motion is still the mainstay. And women, don't just lie there, tell him what to do, get him to do it the way you want it or shame on you.

The Clitoris:

As I mentioned before, don't over do it with your partner's clit. A woman's clitoris is as sensitive as the uncircumcised male's penis head. It is tucked into a hooded fold of flesh to protect it from stimulation while relaxed. When a woman's clit is erect it is super sensitive and should be touched only occasionally. I will discuss the rhythm in the "example section" later on.

There are a lot of things the men can do with the clitoris but the most sensual is to lick it. A man's tongue is soft, moist and hot and it feels fantastic when it's employed on the clit. Other stimulation for variety is great, but always come back with the tongue. Again, don't over do it, change to other stimulations and other parts of her body too.

Tongue Work:

As I pointed out in the previous section the tongue is a man's best asset when it comes to giving his lover face. I like it best when a man can stick his tongue into me and simulate fucking motions. That's what Ted was so good at. He had the longest tongue I have ever seen and it was so talented. There are probably many other talented men out there, they just don't know it yet.

The most effective technique is to spread the outer vaginal lips (Labia Majora) open you're your fingers and then force your tongue between the inner vaginal lips (Labia Minora) and wiggle it in lapping motions trying to reach as deep as you can. Then pull back out and flick the clitoris hood, then and push deep in again, then repeat these motions as many times as you are able.

Tongue fucking can be a strain on both the jaw and tongue, I personally can't keep it up for more than a couple of minutes at a time, but that is really enough, because the clit will probably be screaming for attention by then, and there are so many other pleasure points on a woman's body that an imaginative lover can rotate through them and never really tire out.

Tongue Flicking:

An important talent to practice. Flicking the tongue on the clitoris can be the "final stimulation" that brings her over the top, but only if the shiny little nub has been neglected prior and the arousal has been through other body parts.

If you use the clitoris during tongue fucking you should back off when you notice that she isn't responding as violently as in the beginning. Hold the clit in reserve to be used as the trigger to her orgasm.

Keep in mind that the clitoris is super sensitive and should only be "flicked" at crucial times as she gets closer to orgasm. Some woman may disagree with me on this, but I'm a firm believer in the slow buildup, and then the flame out. The problem with too much concentration on the clitoris is that she will become somewhat desensitized if it is over stimulated and the man loses a great trigger.

The Chin:

A supplemental massage can be done with the chin. While catching your breath the chin can be used by rubbing it against the woman's outer vagina lips. (I suggest that if she's shaved you better be too.) What I like is when he sort of buries his chin between my slick lips, spreading them slightly, and rotates his chin slightly grinding me. I also like it when he runs his chin up each side of the pussy lips and kisses me there that can feel really nice.

I've had a man or two even lay their head down on my aroused pussy to listen to my pulse. That always brings out my maternal instincts and if a guy does that to me I usually end up fucking his brains out latter, remembering how cute he looked laying there.

Your Palm And Fingers:

Hands and fingers are an important part of Cunnilingus. As I keep saying it takes all your parts to really get her off. Men, listen to me carefully here, because if you really want your woman to cum on your mouth, you'll have to bring all your weapons to bear. Mouth, tongue, teeth, fingers even the palm of your hands.

The secret is to keep up a pace, not necessarily on one spot, but a pace that stimulates the general area. Get your woman to tell you were it feels best, keep asking and make a note of it. The fingers are a great stimulation tool and so is the palm of your hand. The palm can be used intermittently directly against the vaginal lips and the fingers can be used to jerk her off.

About Female Masturbation:

I guess at this stage I should probably tell you how woman jerk off. Oh yes we do, even if you never hear about it, we're just usually too discreet to tell you.

The preferred method for a woman to jerk off is lying on her back and rubbing both sides of her vaginal lips -- sort of like doing the Vulcan salute, with fingers on either side.

From time to time she will touch her protruding clit, keeping up a steady pace. As her natural lubrication begins to flow she will rub that along her vaginal lips moistening the area. Vaginal lubrication has the same viscosity as a man's pre-cum and aids in heightening her stimulation.

When she gets close to cumming she will increase her rhythm, just like a man does, and she will concentrate with her fingers on either side of her clit hood. At this point her clitoris will be engorged and erect and the little fleshy hood will rub against either side.

These actions along with her increased lubrication will make her fully aroused and she will continue an ever- increasing stimulation will soon be enough to make her cum with a bang.

I personally like to lift my legs right as my orgasm hits; it makes the sensations more intense when the tummy muscles are tightened while orgasming. I also like to make my rhythm a bit erratic right before I cum too, it seems to make me cum harder.

The reason that I've told you how a woman jerks off, is to make the point that fingers are an important stimulant, and don't be afraid to use yours. Just keep that tongue down there too.