@Vonalt
Am I being too thin skinned or expecting too much the comment a reader leaves?
To start with, being thin-skinned generally means you cannot tolerate negative criticism. You will receive negative comments, so you need to learn to evaluate those comments. Some of the comments will be the valid opinion of the reader and it is given with constructive intent. Others will be the reader flaming you because they cannot accept that other people have opinions different from their opinions or you touched on something that they find offensive.
There are 3 ways to obtain feedback from SOL readers: messages sent to you personally by clicking the Contact Author button, enabling the Reader Comments feature, and Forum posts.
You sought advice from posters in the Forum, so that method is familiar to you. Although, the Forum is not a good source for constructive comments for improving a story. The Forum is a good source for information related to your reader's behavior, which is what my post attempts to address.
The comments feature will provide many comments about your reader's personal opinions about the story. Some of your reader's comments will be useful. In my author's profile, I disabled Reader Comments for my stories and the viewing of comments in other author's stories. I have several reasons for disabling comments from the readers who are reading my stories and the stories written by other authors. One of those reasons is, I believe a number of the people generating those comments do so because they want attention. To gain that attention, they create a post that may not represent their real feelings, but the post does create a controversy centered on their post. I don't need that type of feedback on my stories or on other author's stories โ it is a waste of my time to read the comments.
To me, the best feedback is what I receive from a reader who clicks the "Contact Author" button and explains to me what they feel about the story and provides me with comments on errors and ambiguities in the story that I can correct to improve the story. The problem with this type of feedback is the majority of your readers do not click the "Contact Author" button. The advantage of this type of feedback is the reader is investing their time and effort in preparing the message, so what they say about your story is probably accurate in their opinion.