So, thank you one and all. Wriggle suggested a resource for my family and me to use regarding dealing with my mother: Thank you, very much!
I have reposted my (reviewed) (looks clean) version of the complete story. I hope folks enjoy it, without the jarring discontinuity of "Whoa! I've seen this chapter before!".
Thank you all for reading, and commenting.
And, for those who care, my sons have stepped up as MEN, volunteering to drive out to my mother's, on short call, and pack her up and move her. (proud pappa moment!) In short, all my (first world) drama, is settling out.