Some people are passive, some are aggressive and some are passive-aggressive. For the most part, I fall into the passive category although I've been known to employ passive-aggression when I think it'll get me what I want. Sometimes I can be a real butt, that way. Growing up in a household where the consequence of even the most innocent error was a smack across the side of the head, I learned early in life that passive behavior and a low profile were the keys to survival.
My older brother never did learn that lesson. He was aggressive to the point of open defiance of our parents resulting in his getting the shit beat out of him on a regular basis. Life was hard for him and he wound up spending nearly half his years in some sort of correctional facility before he died in a motorcycle accident at the age of thirty.
By her mid-teens, my younger sister had taken solace in booze and fucking anybody that would keep her supplied with her drug of choice. She didn't live as long as my brother.
Before you give up on this story as being just too depressing, let me promise you a happy ending. I'm simply pointing out that people like me are blessed with innate survival skills, while others are in a race to learn them before circumstance catches up to them with a disastrous outcome. My siblings and I were merely three of many millions of kids born to parents who had no more business raising children than a slack-jawed idiot.
Along with my mild-mannered nature, I have a functioning brain and did really well in school. Since I learned early on not to flaunt my academic talents, I wasn't very often the target of the school tough guys. They pretty much ignored me and that's exactly what I wanted. On the rare occasion that I couldn't talk my way around a dispute, I was fairly successful at verbally shaming my opponent into submission. When that didn't work, I sometimes got a fat lip for my troubles. As a fighter, I made a very good punching bag.
Around the age of fourteen, puberty began asserting itself in the form of voice change, body hair and growing genitals. As I watched my male classmates strut and preen and listened to them tell lies about their sexual conquests, I gradually became aware that I was actually sexually ambivalent. I mean, I had desires and erections and all that, but the objects of my desires were as likely to be male as female. Both could stir up lustful sexual fantasies. It didn't take a genius to appreciate that this was not something you discussed with your teammates on the soccer field. I grew up in a society where homophobia was a badge of honor. Being saddled with the epithet 'fag' or 'queer' was a sure path to social ostracism as well as a few bruises.
So, consciously suppressing any attempts to get too close to guys that stirred up my hormones, I played the hetero game with reasonable success. I had sex with someone other than my right hand for the first time when I was fifteen. She wasn't my girlfriend, she was my nineteen year old rather homely and somewhat overweight cousin who was always telling me I was 'pretty'; not an adjective a guy wants to have applied to him if he's trying to stay below the radar. Anyhow, she took my hand and pulled me into the woods at a family reunion picnic and gave me a blowjob that lasted less than a minute before she got a mouthful. I enjoyed it but I think she felt cheated.
By the time I went off to college – the first ever in my extended family – I'd dated, made out in the back seats of cars, even groped my fair share of boobs, but I'd never had real sex with a girl other than my cousin and that hardly counted since I never got into her knickers.
When I finally 'did it', it was with a girl I met in my freshman English Comp class. We became very close friends and I loved her dearly but I wasn't IN love with her. I can say that now but, at the time, I didn't have enough experience to make the distinction. The sex happened one evening when we were in her apartment smoking pot and creating solutions to all the world's problems. We got to giggling and tickling each other and wound up touching enough of each other's body parts that the most natural next thing to do was to fuck.
We had sex pretty regularly after that. But then, as the novelty wore thin and as it became more and more apparent to me that I didn't feel about her the same way she felt about me, I began to withdraw into my passive, isolation mode. The harder she pushed me to respond to her, the more I closed myself off. Well, relationships can't exist in that kind of emotional vacuum so I wound up losing both a lover and a friend. I've felt ashamed of the way I treated her ever since. Like the old song says, 'Growing up is hard to do'.
I might have gone through the rest of my life living in this sexual limbo if I hadn't accidentally run across a kindred spirit. Although I intended to get my degree in English, I had a strong interest in the sciences as well.
My partner in the dissection lab of a zoology course was a guy who was pre-med. Gabor was his name and his family had moved here from Hungary. He had a noticeable accent but his English was excellent. Gabor was very bright, witty and about as nice a guy as you'd ever meet. Watching him dissect our fetal pig, I could easily imagine him probing deeply into someone's brain.
One day, about half way through the fall semester of my junior year, I saw him sitting alone in a corner booth at the Heidelberg, a campus hangout known for its pizzas, calzones and classical music LPs on the jukebox. Go figure! He was munching on a slice, sipping a glass of beer and reading a textbook. He waved me over when he saw me and I slid into the booth across the table from him.
"How's it going, Ethan?" He asked. "Ready for the zoology mid-term?"
"Ready as I'll ever be, I guess. Looks like you're doing some last minute boning up." I said, pointing to the textbook.
"You know how it is with pre-med students. Anything less than a 4.0 is unacceptable."
I laughed, "No, I don't know how it is and I don't want to. You're a better man than I am, Gunga Din."
"Who the hell is Gunga Din?"
"Nobody you need to worry about. You'll read the book someday." I changed the subject. "You told me you were going to try to get a date with that fox, Rhonda. Have any luck?"
He grinned and nodded his head. "This Friday. We're going to see Pepe Romero. We were incredibly lucky to get tickets."
"Ahh! You lucky dog, you! I'm jealous! That guy's absolutely amazing. I think I've got everything he ever recorded."
"So, you're a fan, huh?"
"Like the Pope's a Catholic!"
"Well, as it happens, my dad's boss has box seats at the theater. That's how we got tickets and I'm sure we could squeeze in one more."
I'm sure my mouth was hanging open. "Jeez, Gabor! If you can do that, I'll promise you anything you want, including sex if you're so inclined."
I thought I was kidding but Gabor looked at me for a moment and said, "Don't make promises you won't keep."
It took me a minute to decide he was being serious. "I always keep my promises, my friend."
He smiled and let it slide. "OK, then. Meet us in front of the Chez Henri at six and we'll have dinner before the show. Oh, and, wear something besides jeans and a sweatshirt, Ethan."
"That means I'll have to go shopping but, for Pepe Romero, I'll do it. I've got a class in ten minutes. See you guys Friday at six."
The whole rest of the week, I was excited on two levels. Hearing and seeing Romero do things with a guitar that nobody else could do was something I'd treasure forever. That Gabor even hinted that sex with him was a possibility gave me a boner every time I thought about it. He was one of those guys who could really stir up my hormones. I was anxious to find out if he was serious but I had to be very careful. The last thing I wanted to do was throw a big monkey wrench into a perfectly good friendship. I didn't intend to make that mistake twice.
I'm one of those people who have all the fashion sense of a three-year old but I followed the recommendation of the saleslady and went with a nice tweed sport jacket and dark brown pants. She also took the tie I was considering out of my hands and selected a considerably more conservative one.
I'm glad I took her advice because when I met up with Rhonda and Gabor, he said, "My god Ethan, you look absolutely civilized!"
"Thanks, I think. Rhonda, you're looking especially gorgeous tonight. How did this troglodyte talk you into being seen in public with him?"
"With the promise of diner at Chez Henri and a chance to see Pepe Romero; that and the prospect of wanton sex later on. I've always had a thing for troglodytes." We all laughed but the mental image it stirred up in my brain also caused a stirring in my shorts.
I'll take a moment to describe my friends. Gabor is just short of six feet with black hair and olive skin, no doubt Mediterranean in genetic origin. He's an avid footballer, soccer player to us Yanks, and keeps himself very physically fit. His pale blue eyes contrast sharply with his swarthy complexion. That combination and a smile that could melt stone makes me catch my breath and wonder what he finds attractive in a plain John like me.
Rhonda? Well, Rhonda is just Rhonda. Eyes follow her wherever she goes. She's one of those rare fortunates who have it all; soft brown hair, creamy skin, beautiful brown eyes and a figure most women would kill for. You can add to that the fact that she's on the Dean's Honor Roll every semester. It actually made me a little jealous that she and Gabor were such an ideal match.
Gabor is fluent in French so he took the occasion to show off and order for all of us, even though the waiter probably spoke English as well as any of us. The dinner was excellent, though punched a big hole in my checking account when I insisted on treating. I felt obliged since Gabor came up with the tickets. We killed a bottle of wine between the three of us; just enough to get a nice glow started.
Romero is a man who was born and bred into music and he lives it like a religion. Even if you're not a fan of classical guitar, you can't hear him play without being moved by his genius. Call me a snob but I'm inclined to think if you don't love Romero and his music, you have no soul. We left the theater with our hands still tingling from applauding so enthusiastically.
Outside the entrance, I turned to Gabor. "My man, I can't thank you enough for this incredible evening. I'll always owe you for this one. Rhonda, thanks so much for allowing me to be seen in your company. My rep has been bumped up several notches."
I kissed her on the cheek and had taken Gabor's hand to say 'good night', when he said, "Hey, the evening's young. I know for a fact you have no classes tomorrow so forget going home. You're coming with us back to Rhonda's place for more wine and cultural exchange."
I was reluctant. "Are you sure? I mean, I appreciate the invitation but I don't want to be the one to make it a crowd."
Rhonda took my arm pulled me along the sidewalk. "Where's your sense of adventure, Ethan? Have you no imagination?"
Rhonda's place was a very nice two-bedroom apartment over a detached three-car garage. The outside stairs led to a deck big enough to hold a patio table and four chairs along with several planter boxes. The inside was decorated like something out of Old England with heavy wooden pieces and overstuffed chairs and couch. It sounds overpowering but it was actually very homey.
Gabor and I plopped onto the couch as Rhonda went into the kitchen to get a bottle of chilled white wine and her stash of high-grade pot. When she set down the tray with bottle, glasses and fixin's, I knew it was going to be a fun night.
We talked a little about school. Rhonda was a math major and planned to study civil engineering. I had a mental image of all work at a construction site coming to a standstill as she strolled around in her hardhat while the laborers ogled her and drooled on their dirty T-shirts. She wanted to know what kind of living I hoped to make with a degree in English. I said if failed as a writer, I could always pick up a few education credits and teach high school. I didn't aspire to fabulous wealth but I wouldn't turn it down if it forced itself on me. Gabor's chosen profession had never been in question. He'd wanted to be a physician for as long as he could remember. The only thing left to decide was what specialty would be fortunate enough to count him among their ranks.
A couple of joints, a couple of glasses of wine and a lot of laughs later I caught Gabor and Rhonda casting little 'I-want-you-so-much' glances at each other and took that as my cue.
I stood and reached for my jacket. "Well, guys, I'm about done for. I think I'll head back home and crash. Thanks so much for a great time."
They both protested but they couldn't hide the excitement in their eyes knowing they'd soon be naked and all over each other. I couldn't decide which of them I envied most.
A few days later, Rhonda saw me walking across the quad and yelled at me.
"Hey, Ethan, wait up!"
I was pleasantly surprised when she greeted me with a little kiss on the lips.
"Hi, Rhonda! You look nice as always. Thanks again for a great evening last Friday. I'd like to do it again sometime."
"That's what I wanted to talk to you about. Would you like to come over to my place tonight for dinner?"
"Uh, sure, I'd love to. Tell me what Gabor's bringing and I'll bring something else."
"Gabor isn't coming. It's just you and me."
I must have looked as confused as I felt. "Oh. I just thought that, uh, well..."
She laughed at my addled state. "Ethan, Gabor's a really great guy and I hope to see a lot more of him but we've only had one date. There's no commitment between us or anything. I think you're a nice guy too so I'm asking you to dinner. I'm not trolling for a life-long partner."
I guess I blushed a little. "Thanks, Rhonda. What time shall I be there and what kind of wine should I bring?"
"I thought I'd bake a lasagna so how about a nice Chianti? About seven OK with you?"
"You bet. See you then." I thought my face would split with the grin stretching across it from ear to ear.
I showed up in the tweed jacket again but sans tie. When I handed her the wine, I boldly leaned forward and kissed her lightly on the lips. I figured she'd started it. The aroma of the Italian spices made my mouth water and I made the salad while she set the table and took the lasagna out of the oven to rest and cool.
Dinner was very pleasant. We laughed a lot and chatted about nothing in particular. We finished the bottle of Chianti sitting on her huge overstuffed sofa and listened to a recording she had of more Romero wizardry. She offered some marijuana but I passed. I never really learned to like the way it distorted my sense of time.
As the evening wore on, we managed to get physically closer and closer to each other until she was snuggled up against me in the corner of the couch. I had my arm around her shoulder and her breasts pressing against my side had the inevitable effect; the boner in my pants was clearly in evidence. What's more, I wanted her to see it since she was responsible for it.
She giggled as she slid her hand down my shirt and took a firm hold on the bulge. "Looks like this guy needs some help. How about we go into my bedroom and give him some exercise?" After turning off the lights, she took my hand and led me to her bed. I was having a hard time getting it through my skull that I was about to make love to this Venus with arms.
Rhonda lit a candle on her dresser and turned off the lamp before she unbuttoned my shirt and slid it off my shoulders. "Your turn," she smiled. I took the hem of her knit top and lifted it over her head. Her bra was of the sheerest material and I doubted it was needed for support. Her cool fingers brushing against the hair on my belly caused my breath to catch as she unbuckled my belt and slid the zipper down, letting my pants drop around my ankles. I stepped out of my shoes. John Thomas was straining against my boxers. I unbuttoned her tight black slacks and slid the side zipper down. I had to tug a bit but they oozed around her lovely hips and dropped, leaving her clad in practically invisible panties and that sheer bra. A nest of dark hair was clearly visible through the transparent fabric. As I knelt and helped her step out of her slacks, she reached behind her and unhooked the bra, letting it drop across my shoulder. She giggled as I rose, holding it over my nose and deeply inhaling her aroma. Her breasts were absolutely gorgeous; the perfect size, the perfect shape, her aureoles and nipples the perfect color. I lightly stroked both of them with the backs of my fingers. We grinned at each other as we slid our underwear down our legs at the same time. I pulled off my socks.
"Pretty impressive!" she said, watching my dick bouncing in anticipation. "I'm going to have fun with that. And since I'm on the pill, it's going to be bareback. I hope you approve."
In answer, I took one step forward and pulled her body against mine. If I hadn't been slightly numbed by half a bottle of wine, I might have fired a load right then and there. Guiding her backward to the bed, I dropped to my knees as she sat. I made love to her breasts while my hands experienced the warmth and smoothness of her back and buttocks. She arched her back, pushing a nipple into my mouth. When they were as hard as beads, I let my tongue slide down her flat belly and trace circles around her naval, eliciting soft little groans and sighs. As I gently pushed her legs apart, she leaned back on her elbows to watch.