I am a 33 year old married man. While I do all the writing, she does most of the editing and also has quite a bit of say in those stories that I write which are entirely fictional. We both enjoy erotic literature and often read stories we find to each other.
If you've never had the opportunity to introduce erotica into your partnership, I definitely recommend it. If you're unsure, you can always start with a few romance novels and work your way up to more erotic literature.
Honestly, the closest thing I came to erotica before meeting my wife was the writing in porn mags. Now, I can't imagine my life without such a healthy outlet for erotic fantasies. I rarely watch or look at porn anymore, I find my imagination and the imagination of others is much more powerful.