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PotomacBob 🚫
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I was re-reading Jay Cantrell's Unending Night, and came these lines.

"Every time I've thanked you, you've replied you were glad to do it Most people just say 'you're welcome.'"

"That's why I don't, Andy said with a shrug. "'You're welcome' just seems so trite, it's like it has no meaning anymore."

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My experience is different from Andy's. I rarely hear anybody say 'you're welcome' any more. What I hear is that when one person says 'thank you,' the other is more likely to respond, 'Thank YOU." Or 'No problem' or just a nod instead of a verbal response. Instead of finding it trite, I find it refreshing when somebody actually responds with a 'You're welcome.'

In considering dialogue in a story, would my preferred response seem out of date in today's world for a young character whose family has always insisted on manners and politeness?

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REP 🚫

@PotomacBob

Excuse Me, You're Welcome, and Thank You are never out of date in my opinion. Nor is any other form of acknowledgement for intruding on others or responding to such an acknowledgement.

What I see is a change in social consideration among people here in the US and probably other countries, if not all countries. People don't say Excuse Me and Thank You to strangers when it is appropriate. People probably say it less to their family, friends, and associates than they used to and should.

It seems to me that this trend is caused by several factors. People thinking they are better than others and a sense of entitlement seem to me to be at the head of the list. People with a Me First and being oblivious to what is going on around them are also a major factors. I suppose there are also cultural traditions that affect people's behavior to others.

Our world would be a better place if everyone was more considerate toward others.

Tw0Cr0ws 🚫

Years ago being rude had consequences, then they outlawed dueling.
Manners and courtesy also fell out of fashion with feminism.
In general it is considered old fashioned and outdated.

In my opinion the end of courtesy is the cause of the self-centered culture not the result of it.

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@Tw0Cr0ws

Before dueling was outlawed, people were rude to each other without the lack of curtesy resulting in a duel.

The way men treated women definitely changed when feminism became common. Basically, men stopped doing things for women such as opening doors for them, pulling out chairs for them, etc. However, the change did not stop people from extending common curtsey to other men and women.

The self-centered culture definitely drives a lack of curtesy, but I disagree that a lack of curtesy led to the rise of the self-centered culture.

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irvmull 🚫

@REP

The self-centered culture definitely drives a lack of curtesy,

Yep. It's an urban thing. Out in the country, people are still polite to each other. Country folks know how to hide the bodies.

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StarFleet Carl 🚫

@irvmull

Country folks know how to hide the bodies.

As I mentioned in ATH ... shave the head, pull the teeth, feed everything else (including bones) to the pigs. Hair gives them indigestion, and teeth can be scattered anywhere.

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Tw0Cr0ws 🚫

@StarFleet Carl

Pigs cannot digest teeth, so they pass through and will be found.

About 40 years ago a man killed an old woman then stuffed the body into a barrel of acid which he dumped on his gravel driveway after she was dissolved. He laughed at the cops until they found a gallstone.

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StarFleetCarl 🚫

@Tw0Cr0ws

Pigs cannot digest teeth, so they pass through and will be found.

That's why I specifically said to remove the teeth. Yank them and then simply pitch them out of the window while you're driving down the interstate highway.

Finbar_Saunders 🚫

Coming from the UK, I had not experienced the phenomenon of answering a 'thank you' with 'you're welcome.'
I think the verbal protocol has migrated into current British conventions because of TV.
The response to 'thank you're that I was taught whilst growing up (I hesitate to say that means it was generally accepted) was 'thank you.'

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ian_macf 🚫

@Finbar_Saunders

I grew up in the UK in the 40s and 50s and I agree that the normal response was 'thank you'. I now live in Australia and 'you're welcome' is not unusual although not the norm.

Ian

Mushroom 🚫

@PotomacBob

"Every time I've thanked you, you've replied you were glad to do it Most people just say 'you're welcome.'"

Minor issue, but it should be ""Every time I've thanked you, you've replied you were glad to do it Most people just say 'you're welcome'."

Mushroom 🚫

@PotomacBob

"Every time I've thanked you, you've replied you were glad to do it Most people just say 'you're welcome.'"

Minor issue, but it should be ""Every time I've thanked you, you've replied you were glad to do it Most people just say 'you're welcome'."

ystokes 🚫

Whenever I buy something I always tell the cashier "Thank You very much". One time a friend that was with me asked me why I always say that, after all that's their job. I told him I do it because I'm already breathing so what harm is adding a little sound.

richardshagrin 🚫

Maybe people don't say "You are well come" because they don't want to get involved with the character, size, etc. of your ejaculate. Maybe you come badly? And they don't want to point it out. Maybe a porn star problem?

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Dominions Son 🚫

@richardshagrin

Maybe people don't say "You are well come"

How about you are whale cum?

palamedes 🚫

Just do like the scene from the movie Casino (1995).

dig a hole in a corn field where the height of the corn helps hide your actions and being a field what is the chance of someone noticing the soil being disturbed.

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Mushroom 🚫

@palamedes

dig a hole in a corn field where the height of the corn helps hide your actions and being a field what is the chance of someone noticing the soil being disturbed.

Country boys do it like in the "Legend of Wooley Swamp", by the late Charlie Daniels.

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palamedes 🚫

@Mushroom

That is only for southern boys it is hard finding alligators in the north.

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Ernest Bywater 🚫

@palamedes

That is only for southern boys it is hard finding alligators in the north.

The Northern US country boys use bears and wolves to clean up their edible trash.

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palamedes 🚫

@Ernest Bywater

The Northern US country boys use bears and wolves to clean up their edible trash.

Nope to many deer hunters and fishermen in Michigan they always find the left overs given enough time.

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