I have been reading a few stories and the male m.c. tells his new love not to worry about babies cause he got clipped after former wife was told not to get pregnant again.why she was not the 1 to get fixed since she was the one told not to get knocked up i can not understand.
There might be legitimate medical reasons for that. Human or animal, "fixing" a female is far more invasive (and therefore riskier) of a surgery than "fixing" a male.
Or the ex could have just badgered him into it using the threat of laconookie.
Or the MC could have lied to the new love.
The former wife was being selfish and he was suckered into ending any possibility of a (additional) progeny for him.
There is a point in a marriage where both partners believe their spouse is faithful and that they will be together for the rest of their lives. If that actually happens, then the man getting clipped make sense for it is simple operation compared to a woman getting fixed which is a major invasive operation.
Unfortunately, marriages fail for many reason. In the stories you are thinking of, things changed and they divorced. Now the man is clipped, if what he tells his new love is true. His ex-wife is left with the decision of birth control that can fail, getting fixed, or abortions if she gets pregnant.
There is a point in a marriage where both partners believe their spouse is faithful and that they will be together for the rest of their lives. If that actually happens, then the man getting clipped make sense for it is simple operation compared to a woman getting fixed which is a major invasive operation.
Unfortunately, marriages fail for many reason. In the stories you are thinking of, things changed and they divorced. Now the man is clipped, if what he tells his new love is true. His ex-wife is left with the decision of birth control that can fail, getting fixed, or abortions if she gets pregnant.
Or, of course, it is just a simple story device.
In current -- as opposed to historical -- tales, birth control is an issue whenever sex iis.
There is a point in a marriage where both partners believe their spouse is faithful and that they will be together for the rest of their lives. If that actually happens, then the man getting clipped make sense for it is simple operation compared to a woman getting fixed which is a major invasive operation.
Unfortunately, marriages fail for many reason. In the stories you are thinking of, things changed and they divorced. Now the man is clipped, if what he tells his new love is true. His ex-wife is left with the decision of birth control that can fail, getting fixed, or abortions if she gets pregnant.
Or, of course, it is just a simple story device.
In current -- as opposed to historical -- tales, birth control is an issue whenever sex iis.
I am a former surgical technician and doing a hysterectomy during delivery is easy to do and not just a marriage ending in divorce but a dying wife such as an accident that takes any child too.afterall she is the one with the health issue so having her being medically safe from "accidentally" get pregnant sounds more reasonable.1 of the couples in the smart girl universe had a self healing vasectomy so possible or not she could have gotten pregnant even after he was clipped.
I am a former surgical technician and doing a hysterectomy during delivery is easy to do
Sure, if it's done as part of a delivery by c-section. During a normal, non-surgical birth, not so much.
A vasectomy requires a visit to the doctor's office and a few days of localized pain for the male. A tubal ligation or a hysterectomy requires hospitalization and abdominal surgery for a woman. The first is a minor surgical procedure for the male. The choices for a woman are both considered major surgery and recovery from any kind of abdominal surgery is extremely painful since the abdominal muscles have to be cut. I'd have to question the degree of commitment to the marriage of any man who would ask his wife to have major surgery so that he can avoid having an office procedure that would accomplish the same thing. Saying "it's her problem, let her handle it" should be grounds for a divorce.
I'd have to question the degree of commitment to the marriage of any man who would ask his wife to have major surgery so that he can avoid having an office procedure that would accomplish the same thing.
I would question a women's commitment if she insisted on a man being cut even if it's considered minor.
Either person insisting on any form of elective surgery (birth contol, cosmetic, or whatever) would raise the same question. There is the pill for women and prophylactics for men, both of which are considered safe without surgery of any kind. If the appearance makes a difference in love or not, it was never love to begin with.
There is the pill for women and prophylactics for men, both of which are considered safe without surgery of any kind.
Neither of which is 100% effective.
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If a woman has been told that another pregnancy would be life threatening, is that sufficient?
On the other hand, there are documented cases of both vasectomies and tubal ligations failing as a forms of birth control. Only a full hysterectomy would be a complete guarantee.
I knew a man whose wife said no more sex unless he got fixed. So he did. She served him with divorce papers the next day. She simply wanted to prevent him having more kids after he dumped her.
She served him with divorce papers the next day. She simply wanted to prevent him having more kids after he dumped her.
I'm not sure what, but something is very wrong with these two sentences. She served him with divorce papers, but HE dumped her?
Wasn't that the setup story for Artie's The Golden Mule?
Yep, fits the bill but he didn't have kids.
She dumped him. I'll leave my screw up for posterity.
I don't feel sorry for him.
His business went bust because he was using company funds to maintain his lifestyle. His partner went to jail for embezzlement. His son started taking drugs and his underage daughter became a pass around whore for an outlaw motorcycle gang. He remarried, cheated on his wife and caught genital warts, which he tried to blame on his wife even though she was clean.
Then he was upset when I didn't want to be his drinking buddy or discuss my personal life with him...
Then he was upset when I didn't want to be his drinking buddy or discuss my personal life with him...
The nerve of some people. :)
The events I mentioned were 30 years ago.
TGM was
Posted to a.s.s.m December 21, 1999
so it's possible he was inspired by the events, and joyR is correct
I have been reading a few stories and the male m.c. tells his new love not to worry about babies cause he got clipped after former wife was told not to get pregnant again.why she was not the 1 to get fixed since she was the one told not to get knocked up i can not understand.
I have some first hand thoughts on this. My mom came very close to dying when she had me (Should have her own Lifetime movie! Doctors suggested that she abort. She knew the risks and said "BRING IT!" She's my hero!) I actually came home from the hospital before she did. Anyway, doctors told her next time would be lethal. My mom and dad talked about it, and made a decision. In case anything happened to him, he wanted my mom to be safe and happy. She had a tubal ligation.
Yup, they're still happily married.
Surgically reversing a vasectomy is usually successful, so it would not need be left as permanent if a divorced man remarries.
Going through all the pain* and trouble only to be dumped would provide items of interest for a story though, and even more if he then goes through getting it reversed.
*Many describe it as like being kicked in the testicles but lasting for a week.
