Forum: Author Hangout

I tend to disagree with the site's definition of FemDom and MaleDom. The Fem and Male part tell if it is a male or female being dominated, not the other way around. The best way to make this clear is as follows:

Whether it is a man or woman who is dominating a woman, they are in a FemDom situation. Same goes if it is a woman or a man dominating a male, in which case it would be MaleDom.

The other way would mean a longer descriptive would be necessary, like mfm, ffm, mmf for threesomes, but instead would be MaleDomMale, or FemDomMale, or MaleDomFem, or FemDomFem. That just gets too nutty.

Your thoughts?

The Fem and Male part tell if it is a male or female being dominated, not the other way around.

In as polite a way as possible. BULLSHIT.

1. Dom is the short form of Dominant.

2. If it were as you claim, it would be dom, lower case.

3. D/s not s/D. The dominant takes priority.

4. Whilst D/s as practised in the western world is not by any means 'original'. It does share a few things in common with the rest of the world, the meaning of MaleDom/FemDom (as translated) is one such commonality.

You are welcome to disagree with the site's definition. You are equally welcome to put on greasepaint, a red nose and big shoes, just don't complain when people call you a clown.

I realise you invited thoughts. In my case these are facts based on a great deal of experience gained in a number of countries worldwide. So not exactly my thoughts. Of course you could be correct, in which case everyone I've met and interacted with (That identified as being D/s) would have been utterly wrong.

The problem I see here:
Gemini1766 reviewed a story where he wrote the author used the codes wrongly. In fact the author used the codes as described here on SOL. My question is did Gemini1766's disagreement with the use of the codes influence his scoring of the story?

BTW, I wrote Gemini1766 and informed him the author used the codes according to SOL's code definitions. I guess my message caused his post here.

HM.

Perhaps we could make everyone happy with Fem Dom being women dominating women, Male Dom being men dominating men and having opposite sex Dom being Men dominating women and Women dominating men. Three codes instead of two, but it would help people understand which relationships were in the story. Or get rid of both and use D/s. Or tell authors to use BDSM or light BDSM. Instead of limiting authors to 50 or less codes, only have 50 available, and if there are ones that are eliminated, let the author put them in the story description if he or she thinks it is that important.

You're over thinking that by a large margin. If a person lacks the intelligence to figure out the intent of the codes, they probably lack the intelligence to read the story.

Pretty sure by disagreeing with the sites interpretation you're also disagreeing with the community at large. Let's go back to compound words and contractions.

MaleDom(inant)
Fem(ale)Dom(inant)

Choosing to see it the other way comes across to me not dissimilar to the guy who calls himself a lesbian because "he likes women"

In both the BDSM community, and on SOL, the codes are abbreviations/contractions.

MaleDom = Male is the Dominant
FemDom = Female is the Dominant

The gender of the submissive is irrelevant.

Gemini776 is wrong, both by SOL site definitions and by common usage. In all my years of interacting with the BDSM community and reading SOL as well as other erotic fiction sites, I have not once ever encountered anyone using those terms in the way Gemini776 does. His "interpretation" exists only in his own mind.

That being said, I would absolutely find it useful for codes indicating what gender was being dominated on top of the existing codes indicating what gender is dominating.