This topic came up in another thread, but I thought perhaps I could get better advice with a new thread. I understand the codes on stories to serve two purposes for readers - to avoid squicks and to seek out kinks. What do you do when your work may have something that triggers squicks but that wouldn't satisfy kinks?
Examples:
Slavery - magical slaves that can't be sold and the magic (along with the character of the masters) shapes master and slave so that the relationships end up reading more romantic and consensual. Include the slavery tag? Nonconsent? Mind Control? I'm very sure that those looking for the kinkier writings that go with those tags would be disappointed, but it still might be enough to trigger those for whom it is a definite squick. Can a phrase in the description be enough to warn of the most easily offended without using the tag?
Non-consent based on the above? I'm thinking not, as the subjective experience is never without the subjective consent of the "enslaved" party, even if consent isn't sought, or in some cases, even implied except through participation.
Rape: In one book, an assault, battery, and attempted rape is described. The actions occur quickly and the act is interrupted by another character (with an ensuing fight where the perpetrator is killed), but not before the victim receives a few tremendous blows that put her life at risk and is mostly stripped. I'll definitely code for the violence, but what about rape?
Don't want to run off readers who would enjoy the story but who might think a tag meant more than it did. Don't want to have readers get mad at what they perceive to be a missing tag (even if it was a judgment call). And, don't want to attract readers looking for a certain squick when it really isn't there.
Tagging ain't easy! How do y'all handle this?