@madnigeHowever, speaking about the domestic honey bee, in the matting flight the bee queen is getting a gangbang. I assumed Matt referred to that situation, and thus decided not to comment on it.
She can have several dozen partners in her matting flight, and she's ripping genitals out of every one of them in the process (killing them). Moreover, in theory, and in extremely rare occasions in practice, bee queen can repeat the matting flight. There's nothing technically stopping her to do so at will, however, most of the time she's way too heavy to flight (but she's dropping weight occasionally, such as to fly with the swarm -- first swarm of the season always fly with the old queen) and if she's running out of stored sperm she could repeat the matting flight anew too. But in practice, in most cases the working bees committee that actually run the hive will have her killed and replaced for being inefficient long before that.
Working bees are stuck in pre-puberty because she's only feed the "milk" for first three days of the larvae stage, and "hard" food (a pollen derived substance) after then. The queen larvae is fed exclusively the "milk" the entire time, and thus develops three times as fast and grow significantly larger. And yes, any open working bees larvae can be promoted into a queen in an emergency, with minimal downsides if it's done within the first three days when they are still feed with milk all the same, although even then she's somewhat uncomfortable growing up in extended regular cell and not purpose build queenqueen-size cell, and thus may be less productive than a queen grown in swarming mood of the hive, or for the "quiet" replacement. If the larvae had already switched foods, the queen would be increasingly bad quality with each passing hour before the promotion, but it is still possible with relatively satisfactory results for at least a day or maybe even two.
The "milk" secretes to young working bees, and normally they would feed it to the queen or some larvae (one can feed up to 5 working bee larvae, or up to 2-3 drone larvae; it takes all milk of multiple bees to feed one queen larvae). If there's no queen, there's also no young, open larvae, and the bees who secrete the milk start to consume it themselves and thus go through puberty. However, since they have been underdeveloped as larvae, they only grow a small number of egg tubes and are unable to get inseminated, they don't have necessarily mechanism for that. So they can only lay relatively few drone eggs.
If this happens to this extent, when the eggs being laid, the hive won't accept any new queen as long as there's any such egg-laying bees present, and while it in theory possible to correct such a hive, the economic way in practice is to destroy it by simply shaking it all out on the ground at a distance from the other hives. The workers will fly away, and be accepted in other hives, while the egg-laying ones can't fly any more, and won't be accepted in other hives even if they could.
And yes, unlike for some of the ants where the queen(s) have significant degree of control through diverse set of pheromones, in beehives the queen is rather an instrument of the collective, controlled, if anything, by the gang that feeds the queen. With in turn has a mood influenced by humidity&temperature within the hive, availability of honey&pollen reserves, amount of free space within the hive, but most crucially, by the amount of total unassigned "milk" available, with in turn is a function of population size and growth rate, with in turn is function of the productivity of the queen (a good one may lay amount of eggs exceeding her own weight everyday, for weeks on end).
While in ideal conditions, to her, a bee queen can live up to five to even seven years, in practice, a large hive will wear her out in three, and replace on their own. Intense industrial beekeeping change queens every other year, exactly in bid to avoid this natural replacement to happen (as the replacement may not be clean desired variety, but a hybrid) and also suppress development of the swarming mood (as that reduces productivity of the hive significantly).