The most common question I have received about my story is why it doesn't include any mentions of my wife and our sex life.
The truth is that I have always mentally separated my wife from these actions, because I am truly deeply ashamed of what I am and my betrayal.
My sexual interactions with other men has increased my libido, and I do still love traditional sex with my wife. Occasionally my depression does cause me to lose interest, but I think that again is down to overwhelming shame and not wishing to put her at risk.
Sexual variety is a very exciting thing, particularly because I like to give control to others, and that has never been my relationship with my wife.
Part of the reason that I wrote this down and shared it, is an attempt to deal with my problem. An exorcism if you like of this negative compulsion, and it has worked to some extent.
Life is indeed a two sided coin.