@Eddie Davidson
It's really a twofold question.
You did say "Alternatively..." intimating that it was "If not this, then perhaps that.." kind of question! In any case, I will play along.
My white whale of a story is a believable, relatable, lesbian coming of age story that a lesbian would read and say, "Yeah... I understand that, I can relate to that."
I don't know that I have the emotional depth to write a realistic, believable and relatable female main character. I can write likeable women, even entertaining women (from the male perspective) but I never felt like they had the depth they needed to be beleivable.
I have read a lot of women growing up stories and even lesbian life stories or coming out experiences, both good and bad, in my research, but as fascinating as they are, they are, they leave me feeling like something is missing.
I don't mean that as criticism, just that I haven't found one that resonates with me, that really lays out the emotional connections between thoughts and actions in a way I can internalize and emulate in a story.
I am certain the failing is mine and that is why I will probably keep floundering. I inevitably get to a point where I realize my female MC has become a male with breasts and I either convert the story to male or just put it on the fail pile and try again.