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LupusDei 🚫

Would English audiences tolerate confusion between the two terms, particularly, if "half-sister" was used instead of "stepsister" even if there's no consanguinity whatsoever? Do such happen in speech?

This is primarily a translation question, or more relevantly about portraying a foriegn to English audiences setting. Thing is, in Latvian those aren't differenced, there quite literally is no word for stepsister or step-brother in Latvian. Well, not fully true, as a competent native speaker I could easily construct those, but either isn't in use, and step-brother in particular wouldn't likely be (it doesn't quite "work" being a slightly awkward word). Anyway, half-sister and half-brother are used in all cases, married or bastard.

If I were to faithfully report speech I would either need to introduce information that's not there or carry over this unification including the probable confusion chance it introduces (although at the moment I struggle to imagine a scenario it would be critical).

tendertouch 🚫

@LupusDei

Thing is, in Latvian those aren't differenced, there quite literally is no word for stepsister or step-brother in Latvian.

Interesting. I've seen them confused in stories, but in English they are quite distinct — a half sibling is related by blood, but a step sibling isn't. IIRC they aren't different in French, either — both using demi-

I wonder why? Still, it's nice to be reminded of the difference.

jimq2 🚫

@LupusDei

Half-Brother & half-sister are specifically where you share only one parent with the half-sibling. Stepbrother & stepsister are the children of a stepparent and share no genetic link to you.

Replies:   LupusDei
LupusDei 🚫
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@jimq2

Yes, I know the difference.

It's just that my native language doesn't bother to make that distinction explicit. There's words for step-father and step-mother (patēvs, pamāte) but not for stepdad and stepmom, at that level of familiarity it's always simply mom / dad without being qualified. As I said, using that template "pamāsa" and "pabrālis" could be technically available but aren't in actual use, similarly stepchild "pabērns" is used almost exclusively in figurative poetic sense as in "likteņa pabērns" => "stepchild of fate" => a person suffering unfair fate repeatedly. That said the prefix pa- doesn't really mean anything on its own, added to nouns it most usually point to space under the thing (as in pasaule => "all there is under the Sun" => the world).

EricR 🚫

@LupusDei

I had to go down this rabbit hole because I find etymology fascinating. English derives these terms from old Germanic origins and they are related to bloodlines, property and inheritance. Literally, a half-sibling is entitled to a half-share. It distinguishes bloodline clearly to enable legal distinctions related to legitimacy, property and inheritance.

Romance languages like French tend to organize kinship around household and alliance and don't have the same concept of blood purity. Hence the use of demi (half) in those languages.

I learned something today! Thanks for asking the question @LupusDei

AmigaClone 🚫

@LupusDei

If I were to faithfully report speech I would either need to introduce information that's not there or carry over this unification including the probable confusion chance it introduces (although at the moment I struggle to imagine a scenario it would be critical).

I can think of two situations where the difference between half-siblings and step-siblings might be a critical plot point:

1) A couple wants to get married. In many jurisdictions, step-siblings could marry but not half-siblings. Also, a couple could become step-siblings after their marriage.

2) Half-siblings are likely to share some genetic traits with their common parent, while step-siblings are unlikely to share any genetic traits.

A blended family might have a combination of step and half siblings.

Ex:
Frank and Mary get married. Frank has a child "Billie" and Mary has a child Robin from previous relationships. Some time later Frank and Mary have a child Alex.

Alex and Billie = Half-siblings
Alex and Robin = Half-siblings
Billie and Robin = Step-siblings

Replies:   LupusDei
LupusDei 🚫

@AmigaClone

Or...

Annie said, "Veronica is my niece and also my half-sister."

If she actually meant stepsister, that might be possible without incest with is otherwise implied.

(Annie's dad fathered a child with her sister, vs Veronica's father married Annie's mother after having a child with her sister)

Replies:   AmigaClone
AmigaClone 🚫

@LupusDei

Annie said, "Veronica is my niece and also my half-sister."

Without incest, I can see that line to be true if:

1) Annie's sister-in-law had a daughter with Annie's father.

2) Annie's brother-in-law had a daughter with Annie's mother.

Replies:   Dominions Son
Dominions Son 🚫

@AmigaClone

Without incest, I can see that line to be true if:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eYlJH81dSiw
I'm My Own Grandpa- Ray Stevens ( with family tree diagram)

No time travel, no incest.

awnlee jawking 🚫

@LupusDei

This is primarily a translation question, or more relevantly about portraying a foriegn to English audiences setting.

The translator should assign supremacy to the recipient language, so the information should be imparted in the way most accurate for English speakers.

The trickiest part of translating is metaphors, where the translator sometimes has to completely jettison the meanings of the native words and replace them with something sensible to English ears. Sadly, nobody seems to have yet come up with a decent AI-to-English metaphor translator.

AJ

Diamond Porter 🚫

@LupusDei

In my experience, the answer to LupusDei's original question is that it depends on the speaker.

Those who grow up in blended families usually distinguish the two relationships carefully; those who don't sometimes confuse them.

If you are writing a story where the protagonist is interested in their stepsister, they will usually be careful to say "stepsister" and not "half sister" because the degrees of taboo will be important.

If you are writing a story where the protagonist has no step-siblings or half siblings, but they are interested in their friend's half sister, it is reasonable for them to say stepsister instead (or vice versa).

Native English speakers make even more mistakes when trying to describe distant relations. If I describe someone as my "second cousin twice removed" almost nobody will understand what I mean. Terms for any relations more distant than cousins are poorly understood and often used incorrectly.

Replies:   jimq2
jimq2 🚫

@Diamond Porter

"second cousin twice removed"

That is easy. "Second cousin" is the child of a parent's cousin, and "twice removed" is the grandchild of the second cousin.

Replies:   Diamond Porter
Diamond Porter 🚫

@jimq2

That is correct. Since it is a symmetric relationship term, my grandparents' second cousins would also qualify, but I believe that none of those are still alive.

I am not surprised that readers here understand it, but I think more of us have dictionary addictions than the average English speaker.

Replies:   jimq2
jimq2 🚫

@Diamond Porter

Growing up I was introduced to second, third and fourth cousins and some that were third and fourth removed. That was the way it was in Virginia. Especially when it was a family that kept family trees covering about 1500 years.

Replies:   Pixy I  Dinsdale
Pixy I 🚫

@jimq2

Especially when it was a family that kept family trees covering about 1500 years.

That's bloody impressive, and I'm not sure if you -or the majority of people reading that- realise how impressive that is.

I think the average UK family can only go back to the early 1900's when asked, and would need to do research to delve further back (most people know their grandparents, but not necesarrily their great grandparents). I've managed to get mine pretty much back to 1700, which places me in the top fifteen percent of family genealogists (I'm an amateur, but a stubborn one). Anything beyond 1700, for the most part, requires/relies on personal family records handed down from generation to generation as they precede (UK) state records. Some church records hold more details, but you have to know in advance that your (distant) family members were in that record in the first place in order to ask the church for access permission. A process made harder by the fact that church records no longer reside at their specific churches.

For the most part, any family that has records beyond (before) 1700, were (are) aristocrats.

As an indication of timescale: for Americans the Mayflower was 1620, for the UK, Culloden was 1746. To go back 1500 years puts you in the era when the Romans had lost their sense of humour with the Picts and were leaving the UK and King Arthur, may, or may not have been having extra marital sex with a lake woman...

For reference, when you start delving, the furthest I've managed to get back with documented proof, was my 7th great grandfather born in 1666, in Surrey, England. (you can mostly forget going that far back with Scottish and Irish records), I only focus on direct lineage and ignore the parents and siblings of spouses, and doing so has left me with a family tree of over twenty-five thousand individuals (thank-you COVID for the free time). As an aside, I have found from PM'ng people, that the majority of people with trees over 50K, tend to be either wrong (they just copy other people's trees without actually checking the information and the individuals are correct) or autistic. Mostly it's the latter.

Replies:   Dominions Son
Dominions Son 🚫
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@Pixy I

and would need to do research to delve further back (most people know their grandparents, but not necesarrily their great grandparents)

I'm aware that it's somewhat unusual, but I knew at least three of my four great grandmothers.

In fact, I was in college* when my father's paternal grandmother died. She was born in the 1890s and died in the 1990s at the age of 107. Off the top of my head, I think 1891-1998, but I'm not certain of the years.

I missed being able to say that I knew someone who lived in three centuries by only a few years.

* Correction: If I have the years right, that would be a year after I graduated for my Bachelor's degree.

Replies:   LupusDei
LupusDei 🚫
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@Dominions Son

My direct lineage on father's line cannot be traced past my great grandfather who... possibly had to go into hiding after the failed national uprising of 1905.

He was eventually executed on the roadside by cossack expedition in 1914, for reasons unknown to his five sons of with my grandfather was the youngest and still a baby. His mother succumbed to ill health a few years later, leaving the five orphan boys to rent a farm on their own.

Nevertheless all got education. Oldest become an electrician and thus avoided conscription during WW2 as an "indispensable" civil specialist. Others weren't so lucky, one brother was a tank commander in the Red Army, another joined Waffen SS Legion voluntary -- both died in Courland Pocket in the final weeks before hostilities ended, possibly but unlikely in the very same battle facing each other unknowingly. Meanwhile my grandfather deserted from both Soviet and German armies in turn. In the meantime my father was born during German occupation, but grandfather was mobilized again, "evacuated" to Germany and received advanced anti-tank infantry training in Czechoslovakia, deserted somewhere in Poland, was arrested in Lithuania and went trough POV filtration camp in far east near Komsomolsk-on-Amur.

Third surviving brother surfaced ten years after a broken man and never shared his wartime story. Had he been with Forest Brothers or NKVD or both, we don't know, but nobody doubted he had seen a tad bit too much.

But it was then the brothers went into a conflict between themselves over their mother's first name. It wasn't until early twenty first century when a church record of their parents marriage was unearthed and both sides were vindicated -- my great grandmother had indeed had a double first name, believed to be very unusual for Latvian peasantry at the time. Unfortunately and indeed unusual too, said record didn't provide clarity about her maiden surname recording none, but it confirmed they had married only after arrival in the area in 1906, somewhat supporting the "rebel in hiding" theory about my great grandfather, now seemingly having a noble girlfriend with him. It is even speculated his own surname might be assumed one. While it's rare it was popular in the area at the time, but we have found no proven connection to the few other families wearing it.

Grandfather married a rich farm girl at sixteen, she was a witch and her grandfather had bought their farmstead out of the mansion in 1888, but while I believe it is one of the truly ancient homesteads possibly inhabited continously for a millennia, we know little about the family beyond that purchase.

My mom's side however, one of her great grandfather's had been a pastor, and that's as far we have looked.

Replies:   Pixy
Pixy 🚫

@LupusDei

My direct lineage on father's line cannot be traced past my great grandfather

Actually, it can.

Take a DNA test. If your father is still alive, get him to take it as it makes things easier (if not, and your mother is, get her to take a DNA test, and you take one as well. Then simply remove all her matches from your DNA list to leave behind your paternal line.)

When the results come back, sort out your matches into 'maternal' and 'paternal'. Once done, ignore all the maternal's. Look at your new list, and repeat the process, removing all 'maternal' matches of the new list. This now leaves you with all your paternal grandparents matches.

Since you know your maternal grandmother, look for all the DNA matches with her, mark them, and those left are the descendants of your paternal grandfather. Now all you have to do, is collate all the trees of those DNA matches that have trees to build up your great-grandfather's line. If your great-great-grandfather had brothers, you might not be able to discern which of the brothers is your direct relation, though you might be able to work it out depending on present-day DNA matches of those brothers.

Regardless, it will tell you your great-great-great paternal grandparents.

I suggest using Ancestry for the DNA test as it has the largest database and it also has the ability to give DNA matches a coloured dot. This ability is important in distinguishing parental lines (ie give maternal lines blue dots, red for paternal, green for paternal maternal, purple for paternal paternal etc etc).

You can work it out within an hour or two. I know this, as it's how I solved an almost one hundred year family mystery as to who my (maternal) grandfather's father was.

Dinsdale 🚫

@jimq2

That reminds me of a line in Todd_d172's https://storiesonline.net/s/21080/tequila-shuffle

I was beginning to suspect Miguel's family tree looked like a sea urchin.

samuelmichaels 🚫

@LupusDei

Then you got double-cousins (if you go far enough, lots of those), cross-cousins, and parallel cousins.

Replies:   LupusDei
LupusDei 🚫
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@samuelmichaels

During my late childhood and tweens I was good friends with a girl two years junior who was my double cousin twice removed. My father's father's older brother was her great-great-grandfather and my mother's cousin was her grandmother.

Her great-great-grandmother, my grandfather brother's wife was still alive and it was a household of five living generations inhabiting an ancient farmstead (although their main living house was newbuild in 1970s).

In addition, one of said grandfather's brother's sons had married my mother's mother's sister in emigration (due to WW2, but they met in Canada in eighties), but that third link had no bearing on the girl.

Still, due to all those links I considered the girl "too close" of a relative to later pursue romantically.

Replies:   Michael Loucks
Michael Loucks 🚫

@LupusDei

newbuild in 1070s)

A 900-year-old house is pretty impressive. 😜

Replies:   LupusDei
LupusDei 🚫

@Michael Loucks

That's a typo... should be 1970. The white silicate bricks weren't available in 1070.

However, the homestead itself could be that, or even couple centuries older. It is believed Baltic tribes moved into the area in several waves between 7th and 9th centuries AD, partially displacing and assimilating earlier finno-ugric peoples. Allegedly free peasants arrived first and then the more warlike, hill forts building elites following. When Germanic crusaders arrived in 1201 there were possibly well over 200 of those within modern borders of Latvia, divided in micro kingdoms of one to three hill forts each, with only a couple larger alliances. Each fed by loosely associated peasants scattered in the area and getting rich by taxing well maintained and protected roads, but there were few if any true towns.

Replies:   Michael Loucks
Michael Loucks 🚫

@LupusDei

That's a typo... should be 1970. The white silicate bricks weren't available in 1070.

I knew that, which is why I put the goofy face next to my silly comment!

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