I'm sorry now that I didnt first make it clear that this was NOT a 'story' as such, or even 'BY' me but an email from this older guy, saying he liked my stories and wanted some personal advice on the same subject... I declined but offered to make his long email readable as a narrative, correct it and post it on here and then see what, if anything anyone commented about it.
I should have made it clear to all that the thread and content of this 'story' post was NOT mine, I simply proof read, adapted and posted it for him with his consent. I cant therefore 'add' to it myself, or continue it as a story unless he consents further but sadly he has not answered any communication from me.