I grew up hating being judged by my age instead of who I was as a person. I reserved the right to decide for myself when I was ready to handle something. Most of those I grew up around and have known did the same. Despite age based rules and law and parental thinking. Regardless if it was navigating the sexualized culture parents like to pretend their kids are unaware of. How far we could safely ride our bikes. Or when we first took a sip on some adult only drink. Or anything else. Every person has always lived their own life navigating their own social environment. We don't live the life our parents see, as much as we live the one they don't want to know about!
I grew up with the belief that I owned my own body. That only I had the right to decide whom I chose to share it with and why. Which didn't always happen. When I was around 12, my mother made my 9 year male step-nephew sleep in my bed. Near morning I woke up to an odd felling. The younger boy was sucking me off without my knowledge or consent! That was my first sex experience. I often wonder if I should have felt raped but I to shocked to feel anything! A few months later there was a girl that got mad because I wouldn't let her do that same act. I didn't like how she how superior she felt or how treated other! I decided what sex organs a person had. What mattered was who they were as a person and their emotionally connection me. My sister's also bisexual or what the new generations calls fluid. My mother made sure I knew that. One on my neighbors was a nudist family. My sister was a friend of their nudest daughters. After Mom told me about them. I experimented with being a nudist when no one was home to see me.
When I was 16 a cop trying to prove a camp councilor interrogated me. He thought I knew something I did know and wasn't willing to tell him. So he beat me up and sodomized me! I learned later. Someone I knew had been the cops target. A teen boy who consider what he did with any adult was no one's else's business unless he complained. What the Cop was willing to do to force someone to be a victim. When they did not see themself as one. Was a thousand time worse than any camp councilor accepting a willing younger partner.
Which is why some of my stories are about sexually healing after after experiencing life's brutal side. Not all cops are saints, some use their badge to enforce their will.
Everything issue has people who make the unpopular, condemned, choices because its the right chose for them!! (The fictional story Melissa Secrets shows an good author creatively trying to show that.)
All of the above is why I studied sexology for a bit, began writing science fiction and more recently am attempting creating erotic stories.