Erotic Hypnosis can make sex even more fun than you already know about. It is very erotic to be either directed or do the directing. Especially if the actions are without prejudgment. First, let me make one thing very clear. You will not do what I do in my stories.
What you will do is take most of the anxiety out of sex. Men or women can take either role and, indeed, can rotate roles. Everything you do must be done with consent. The consent will be to start the process. You do not stop in the middle and ask further permission. Let's begin.
First. You discuss the program with your sex partner. You get an agreement that you will be the hypnotist and the partner will be the subject. It is a given that you and your partner will not be experienced with hypnosis. This article will not make you an accomplished hypnotist. That might happen, but that will be as a result of your efforts and not just this article. Some of the things you will discuss are what will happen and will I do anything that I am against doing?
Well, the answer to that is complicated. If you remember my stories, I frequently have the hypnotist "controlling" someone who doesn't realize they are hypnotized. I certainly have done that. But, the person did nothing they really didn't want to do at an unconscious level. As a writer I have the privilege of assuming everyone will behave as I expect. You have an advantage, also. The person you will be hypnotizing is already a lover of yours. If there are things that haven't happened, it may just be inhibition or shyness. What you will discuss is that nobody can be made to do something they are truly against. Hurting a child, suicide, or sex with a stranger (unless that is a secret desire). In my stories the subject, unconsciously wants to have exciting sex - even with a stranger. Your lover would probably not be happy if you brought a stranger to the party, unless that was part of the plan that was discussed.
What you can do and should discuss is speeding up and magnifying orgasms. Making the body parts more sensitive. You will be able to either speed up or slow down your lovemaking.
The most important part of the discussion is establishing a comfort level. You don't want your subject anxious. It won't work.
Second. Have the subject sit in a very comfortable chair. In my stories I use a number of techniques that involve standing. Those methods work, but they are not for the novice. Establish that the subject is comfortable. The subject should be wearing loose clothing (or no clothing - in a warm room) to increase comfort. There are several methods that you can use to induce a trance. You are dealing with a willing subject, so they should all work. All of the methods take enormous patience and confidence. Hypnosis does not happen quickly the first time. Again, my stories assume perfect conditions and a very accomplished hypnotist.
One method is to have the subject stare at your finger from about five feet. You bring your finger to the subjects nose, repeating that the subject is going into a deeper trance as the finger gets closer. When the finger touches the nose the subject's eyes will close. You should take five minutes moving your finger. That is very slow! What makes this system work is the subjects eyes will begin to cross making closing the eyes desirable. It will have the feel of an involuntary act which is important in advancing the trance. Everything you do is designed to build credibility with the subject. Once you convince the subject that you have made it difficult for them to move a part of their body, a deep trance will follow. Incidentally, only 20% of the population are somnambulists and won't remember what happened under the trance. You should assume the subject will remember everything. It really will not change the benefits of the erotic hypnosis.
Another method to get to the same stage is to start with the eyes closed and have every part of the body relax and become limp. Use any order you are comfortable with, but do the whole body.
"Your head is heavy, very heavy. Your neck is limp. Your head is falling onto your chest. Your arms are heavy, limp and relaxed. Your legs are limp and relaxed. Your whole body is very relaxed and completely limp." Just make each discussion of the body part MUCH longer. The process should take 5 - 10 minutes.
Third. Now that the subject's body is relaxed from one of the two methods, you need to deepen the trance and set the mood. "As I talk to you your trance is deepening. You are feeling aroused as you listen to my voice. You are imagining me caressing your body and your trance is deepening." Keep that up for several minutes and watch for small changes in the subject's body. The limbs should become a little more limp.