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Friday the 13th

February 13, 2015
Posted at 6:35 am

It's Friday the 13th AND the day before Valentine's Day. There has to be a storyline in that, right? I only wish I had time to write one. I have so many projects in the air at the moment that I can't spend time on that one. Oh, and if you really want to keep the spin going, this is one of the few times in the century that we have Friday the 13th in two consecutive months! I can see the horror!

And speaking of horror: There has been a lot of buzz on the internet lately about the today's Valentine movie release of Fifty Shades of Grey. I normally stay out of this stuff but I've got to weigh in on this one.

First of all, I've attempted to read that piece of garbage three times and can't get past the third or fourth page. I see comments here on SOL about bad writing and the forum is full of it, but there is very little on SOL that is more poorly written than FSoG. Several years ago, my daughter quipped that the difference between J.K. Rowling (Harry Potter) and Stephanie Meyers (Twilight) was that Rowling learned to write before she published a book. Now E.L. James, like a cuckoo bird, lays her literary egg in Meyers' nest.

So let's set the record straight. Besides being a poorly written bit of Twilight fan fiction, FSoG is not a romance. It is misogynistic sadism masquerading as BDSM. And if you are into BDSM, you will soon discover that James has done more to denigrate and condemn your fetish than any Montana Congressman could ever accomplish. What she writes is not BDSM, it is domestic abuse. Women's shelters and graveyards are filled with women who have found their own Christian Grey.

In my stories, I have toyed with submissive themes at times. I have known a few genuine submissives and found nothing more deviant about their character than any other quirk. I've also seen how that can lead to abusive relationships, both for submissive men and women. The best situations have always been when the dominant partner genuinely cares about his or her mate. I'm sure the topic will creep into my stories again on occasion. After all, with a storyline where there are eleven women attached to a single man, there are going to be all kinds of character traits!

So, I've made my opinion known. While E.L. James put explicit sexual material on mainstream bookstore shelves and perhaps broke ground for others to do the same, I can't be happy about it. I can't support it. I won't finish reading it or see the movie. I love women and it makes me angry to see abuse wherever I encounter it.